The things that we hear about ourselves over and over again shape our personalities. The things we say to ourselves over and over again shape our personalities more effectively.
When you’re asked “How are you?” you’re better off answering “I’m great” rather than “I’m good” or “I’ve got no complaints” rather than “I’m not feeling well”
Our minds are programmed to remember the things it hears over and over again, and its programmed to remember the recent stuff more.
It’s all about the narrative you tell yourself, but don’t deceive yourself.